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re-grieving

a twitter thread

There was a twitter thread that I could really relate to, so thought I'd share it here. You can read it on Twitter or Thread Reader app. If you are reading this in 2025, probably both of them don't exist anymore. And if that's the case, wow my humble site outlived Twitter. But such is life, I guess.

Some parts I particularly liked from that thread:

What’s interesting about re-grieving is that the concept can be applied to trauma and emotional scars, because in a way, you’re grieving for yourself. You deserved better than whatever happened to you. And when you grow as a person, you gain new perspectives, and you re-grieve.

You deserved better than whatever happened to you.

I think that a lot, and the bitterness and anger that comes with it always leaves a bad taste.

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Remember: cleaning a wound hurts. You have to stay with it when it hurts. Let your pain guide you to the epiphanies waiting to happen. What is your pain teaching you about yourself today? What is your pain teaching you about how to be compassionate to others today? When you let pain lead you to self sabotage, or kill your hope, it is no longer productive.

When you let pain lead you to self sabotage, or kill your hope, it is no longer productive.

I have a pattern of running into a sprint of cheat days during downtime, where I screw up my eating, sleeping and exercise patterns. I want to say the in times like these showing up is half the battle worn, but easier said than done.

The environment you live in also affects how you deal with downtime. Mostly, when I am with friends, it's easier to come out of it; other times, it just feels never ending.

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It is when you shame or refuse to accept your emotions that they becoming overwhelming. By accepting them, and letting them pass peacefully, you allow them to recede gently. Kicking and screaming will only tangle you deeper in the thicket.